Welcome back to the second part of this three part series on what I learned about writing (and myself as a writer) after taking part in a 30-Day Writing Challenge, which was encouraged over at the Higher Purpose Writers Facebook page. In Part I, I shared the first of 30 things I learned from my experience with this challenge.
This was a new accomplishment for me. Never before had I focused on my writing on a daily, consistent basis for such a long period of time. Cheers to that!
As a blogger, it would be hard not to learn some things through this experience that are related to my blog itself. Some of my list has to do with that, and the other part of my list has to do with what I’ve learned about people in this last month. What do they like to read? How have they encouraged me? How does the reader, like you, inspire me or challenge me?
But first, let’s start with diving in to more about…me. LOL Hope you don’t mind! 🙂
This is torture. Why did I do this?
30 Things I Learned While Writing for 30 Days (continued)
#11) I’ve learned that it’s about me, but it’s not about me. Since I’m not writing fiction and I don’t want to write about others without their permission, much of what I have to go on is my own life experience. This is torture for me. Who wants to show up each day and share painful or embarrassing parts of their lives? The hardest part for me in writing is having to share about myself. But my hope is that through my stories someone else may feel more accepted or understood or less alone, and little by little that hope in me is becoming greater than my fear. And anyway, it’s ultimately about the One who created us.
#12) I’ve learned that the more I write, the less I fear publishing my posts. I hold back. I constantly hem and haw over what I share. Should I share this? No, that is too deep…Um, I can’t talk about so and so…There is no way I’m sharing that. Even with the content I’ve put on this blog since the day it came to be, I worry about what gets put “out there”. And what I’ve put out there so far is just the tip of the iceberg. But the more I’ve been writing, and the more feedback I’m getting, the more I realize that there are people who relate to what I share. Blogging consistently keeps that knowledge alive and helps gain confidence, so I’ve been feeling a little braver each time.
#13) I’ve learned that I need help to become a better writer. I want feedback on my writing like a hummingbird wants a big fat mosquito covered in nectar. It’s not that I want someone to come along and tell me I’m doing a great job. Okay, that would be lovely, but let’s be real. I want constructive criticism. I want to learn. I want my words to be ripped up and tossed out and mixed up, and then I ache to learn how to put them all back together again in such a way that will truly touch my readers’ hearts. There’s something I want them to know and, if I don’t write well, I fear I’ll miss the mark completely. We’re never too old to learn!
#14) I’ve learned to stop looking at my blog stats as a measure of success and, instead, use them as feedback to gain more insight into the interests of my readers. For me, blog stats are like that awful cough syrup my mom forced me to take as a kid whenever I was sick. Remember those plastic tubular medicine spoons? Ugh. There are a lot of ways I can keep track of the traffic on the blog through the stats. Typically, I avoid it whenever possible, like I have for the last year. But in this last month I’ve been paying attention because I’ve been curious. What are readers out there looking for? Am I providing it? What I have discovered so far perplexes me: the posts I’ve written that I don’t like so much, the readers seem to like those the most. The ones I love, they don’t respond to. At all. I’m still puzzling that out, and I’m probably not going to like the answer.
#15) I’ve learned that right now people don’t want melancholia. They are searching for hope, joy, and honest tips on how to get through this COVID-19 crisis. Here’s an example: Fifteen days ago I wrote a post called Struggling, then a few days later I posted one called What Are You Missing?. The titles don’t sound all that cheerful, do they? I’ve been finding that I tend to write about something I’m having a hard time with, and by the end of my post I’ll reveal how I look for the triumph that comes from the struggle. A couple of days after those, I posted one that was nothing but happy. It was called Some Good Stuff. My blog views that day quadrupled. As soon as I started writing about the struggles again, the stats went so low they were less than what they started out to be. That was enlightening. Oh, and here’s the kicker—Some Good Stuff didn’t even have any of my writing. I was just super excited to share a new video series, Some Good News, to help cheer people up. 🙂
#16) I’ve learned that even though people are searching for “happy”, there are still times when readers crave comfort and encouragement. I think it’s important to recognize that life will bring us hard times, but we have the ability to seek beyond our troubles and face our burdens head on with courage. In the last month, one of the most popular posts was What Will Tomorrow Bring? In it, I wrote about what I was choosing to look forward to despite the world being in a very scary state. I still remember the night I wrote that. I had to dig very deep to think of what I could look forward to the next day. It’s my hope it encouraged people to do the same.
#17) I’ve learned that the more I mention Jesus, the lower the stats are. I can’t wrap my head around that. That’s the part that hurts the most for me. Jesus, well, He’s my friend. He saved my life. Sure, it’s a little painful when viewers reject me and my thoughts, but if they reject them because Jesus has been mentioned it’s a dagger through the heart. I’ve been told my writing is too preachy. I don’t really know how to fix that. I think the answer might be to tell more of a story instead of whatever it is I do now.
#18) I’ve learned that I have no desire to market myself. If I ever do finish a book and it comes time to do that kind of stuff, I think I need to hire a friend to do it. I am not comfortable with that at all. I cringe when it comes to sharing a new post on Facebook. I go through the strangest experience with that every time. So I’m getting braver at posting on the blog, but posting a blog post on Facebook is even worse for me. I put it on Facebook, then I’ll take it off a few minutes later! LOL Then I’ll pray for courage and then put it back on Facebook. Does anyone else go through this?? It’s awful. Can we just skip it?
#19) I’ve learned that my peeps haven’t given up on me. We all need cheerleaders, don’t we? I have this amazing small group of bible study friends who, when I first told them two years ago that I wanted to write a book, they nodded their heads eagerly and exclaimed with excitement. As if, like, I would actually do it. I told them this because I’d heard if you say something out loud to people, then you’re more likely to actually accomplish it. When I said it, I don’t know if they noticed, but my face was flushed and my voice shook and my knees were knocking. I didn’t actually believe I would do this thing. I’m still not sure I do. But those ladies, some of them actually read my blog! And I love them even more for it because it always seems like just when I think about taking it down, when I’m thinking to myself, What are you doing? No one cares about what you write! , all of a sudden a comment will pop up or a text or an email from one of my people—these awesome bible study friends—and they’ll tell me how much they enjoyed one of the posts. So then I think, Well, I can’t stop then can I…if it brings them joy? In writing almost daily over the last couple of weeks, many of them have contacted me with that sweet encouragement, and it has meant so much.
#20) I’ve learned that I want to do less blogging and write a story. How do I know this? It keeps coming back to me. There was a quote shared on the Higher Purpose Writers page during the challenge that my mind will not be freed of. After reading it, I kept thinking on it for days because, at the time, the words didn’t make sense to me. I kept thinking…what does that mean? On my walks, I’d wonder about it and the words would flash in my mind, without ceasing. Like that oil change light that comes on in your car when you keep thinking I don’t have time for this, so you put it off for as long as you can…but in the back of your mind you know that the motor will seize up, and you won’t be able to move forward until you deal with it. A story, write a story. But what story? All I know is that I’m all over the place with this blog, Encourage Your Heart. In writing more this last month, I find that I’m starting to long for a Beginning, Middle, and End.
Thank you for joining me again! Tomorrow I’ll have the last of my list of 30. I’ve left my favorites for the end. Hope to see you there!